A Companion in Solitude: Coping with Loneliness during Deployment and PCS Alone

As military spouses, we face unique challenges that test our resilience and grit. One such challenge is navigating a PCS (Permanent Change of Station) move alone while our partner is deployed. The physical distance combined with the emotional stress of change can sometimes feel isolating. Speaking from personal experience, I can tell you that while it’s undoubtedly tough, it’s also a journey where we discover our true strength.

Understanding Loneliness

Let’s first acknowledge that feeling lonely during this time is entirely normal. You are not alone in these feelings. Missing your spouse, grappling with the responsibility of a move, and stepping into an unfamiliar environment all contribute to a sense of loneliness. It’s essential to recognize these feelings without judgment and know that it’s okay to feel this way.

Staying Connected

Maintaining a strong emotional connection with your spouse, even when they are miles away, can be a great comfort. Make the most of technology – exchange emails, schedule video calls when you can, or simply share pictures of your day. Don’t forget to express your feelings honestly; remember, it’s a journey for both of you.

Building a Support Network

Creating a support network is vital when navigating through loneliness. Connect with other military spouses who understand your situation, join local clubs or groups, or seek help from PCSing resources like us at The PCS Planners. These connections not only provide practical help but also emotional support. (By the way, we have recently created our Facebook Group for military families who are going through the PCS process. We are planning to put a lot of tips and answer questions there, if you want to join our community, click here)

Caring for Yourself

Self-care often takes a backseat when dealing with a PCS move alone, but it’s crucial for your well-being. Set aside time for things you enjoy, whether it’s reading, exercising, or exploring your new surroundings. Practicing mindfulness can also help manage stress and feelings of loneliness.

Finding Positives

While it’s tough to see the bright side when feeling lonely, try to view this time as an opportunity for personal growth. You are stronger and more capable than you think. Each decision you make, every hurdle you cross, makes you more resilient. Remember, it’s not just about enduring the loneliness but about learning and growing from it.

Reaching Out

Don’t hesitate to reach out if things get overwhelming. Professional counselors, chaplains, and support lines are there to provide assistance. Remember, seeking help is not a sign of weakness but a step towards regaining control over your feelings.

Going through a PCS alone while your spouse is deployed is a journey marked by moments of solitude. However, as I have discovered on my own journey, it’s within these moments that we uncover our true strength and resilience. At The PCS Planners, we’re here to provide guidance, share our personal experiences, and remind you that even in moments of loneliness, you are never truly alone.